(Expanded answer for #1)
(1) How can I stop my negative thoughts from running my
It takes courage to be willing
to challenge your beliefs. To create more love in your life
and less drama and chaos, you need a great deal of courage.
Every person in every society has fears and demons. Fears
show up in different ways as anger, jealousy, hate, envy,
resentment and other negative emotions. Be willing to pay
attention to your thoughts and acknowledge and be aware
of your emotions in every moment. Back
willingness are the keys. What thoughts and
beliefs are you willing to release so that new, more loving
thoughts can take their place? In the quest for the life
you want, are you committed to maintaining your old beliefs
about how things work, or are you willing to change your
beliefs in order to create the life you deserve?
If your beliefs are lies or
half truths that you tell yourself to give your current
experiences meaning, then changing your beliefs or mind-set
changes the meanings you attach to your experiences. How
many times have you had preconceived notions prior to an
experience, then something occurs to change your mind-set,
and the experience ends up being different than you expected?
Next time you go into a situation
that you have been in before, go in with no expectations,
and see how different that makes the experience. The mind-set
or expectation of how things “should be,” colors
our vision in a way that limits our experiences. When you
learn to go with the flow, many more opportunities may enter
your life because you are more open to the possibilities.
When your limiting beliefs block the flow, they cause you
to feel like you are being pushed and in turn, you feel
you need to push real hard to just barely get what you need.
Your willingness to expand
your belief system is essential for personal growth. Many
of us grew up believing a lot of things that are incorrect,
unloving, and unhealthy. These beliefs keep us from moving
forward on our journey in experiencing life fully and in
achieving our greatest potential. So many of the beliefs
you have about yourself are not true. Look at the word “believe”,
you will see the words “be” and “lie”
contained in it. So your healing begins when
you accept that the person you have been programmed to believe
you are, may not actually be your true self.
Your willingness to expand your belief system, to include
universal truths, allows you to move forward on your path
of self-discovery and enlightenment. We use our perceptions
to define our experiences. As we change our perceptions,
our experiences change. Because perceptions are formed from
beliefs, as you transform your beliefs into
the knowing of divine truth, your experience of life will
be one of love, abundance, peace, health, harmony, and joy.
This is how to experience “Heaven on Earth”
as it has been foretold many times.
To create the life you desire
you need to understand that there are universal laws in
place. The “Universal Law of Attraction” is
one of the laws that determines how we create our reality.
Subconscious thoughts, the storehouse of memories, directly
create our current reality. The subconscious takes the information
it gets from the conscious Mind and makes it real (our thoughts,
words, actions, and images). It takes the information you
focus on (where you put our attention and place your energy)
and draws into your life experiences to match those thoughts.
Much to your disappointment, your subconscious DOES NOT
distinguish between negative and positive. It is the “Ultimate
Yes-Man” and has no sense of humor. It takes everything
literally. That is why you even need to be mindful of joking,
making fun of yourself, and putting yourself down.
Your thoughts determine the
emotions you feel, and the emotions you feel translate into
the energy (e-motion is energy in motion)
you send out and that energy draws in a matching vibratory
energy. Therefore, what you think and say creates
what you are living. If you are not attracting
into your life what you say and imagine you want, you must
first examine your subconscious to see what beliefs you
hold. For instance, if you want a loving relationship, but
your belief is that relationships are painful, take away
freedom and individuality, and sacrifice happiness, it is
no wonder your relationships reflect those beliefs. The
Universe will bring us exactly what we believe to be our
truth. Unfortunately, we all have many beliefs that have
nothing to do with what we consciously desire Now.
How often have you said or
heard, “You reap what you sow,” or “What
goes around, comes around”? Those sayings refer to
the Universal Law of Attraction. If you spend ten minutes
listening to your internal dialogue, it will become quite
evident how your unhealthy thoughts contribute to the drama
and chaos in your life and in your world.
What exactly is the Mind
from a scientific perspective? The Mind is an automated
warehouse of burdened, encumbered memories. It is a linear
arrangement of complete multi-sensory records of successive
moments (memory records) and operates according to a simple
and undiscriminating system of logic that associates –
even identifies – things that are in fact quite different.
The Mind is a device whose purpose, or more accurately,
design function, is to ensure the survival of oneself or
anything that one identifies with oneself (including the
Mind). SURVIVAL in the sense intended, goes beyond physical
survival. It includes the survival of one’s ideas,
opinions, and self-conceptions and thus results in being
right and making others wrong, dominating and avoiding domination,
justifying oneself and invalidating others.
ONCE AN INDIVIDUAL IDENTIFIES
WITH HIS MIND, HE BECOMES NO MORE THAN A MACHINE FOR OFF
What emerges then is a contrast:
survival or perpetuation of position VERSUS wholeness, completion,
and experience. Perpetuating one’s position, however
it may manifest itself: as self-image, ideology, fantasy,
or whatever – is the essence of the Mind state and
the source of all dissatisfaction in life. The danger of
this Mind state lies in its furthering precisely that which
denies the state of Self. Whereas the Self detaches from
and transcends any particular position, it is in the nature
of the Mind state to become attached. The Mind fastens onto
particular positions and attempts to perpetuate them.
What stands in our way of
attaining Mastery is only our point of view. Our point of
view is the point from which we view – which we therefore
do not see. Our point of view depends on our position. To
"get off” our position, to leave it behind, is
always uncomfortable and frequently terrifying. Whereas,
in the state of BEING (true self) one knows and acts appropriately
In other words,
you are not just your Mind! It is only a portion
of your total being. Your Mind is like a computer; it accumulates
whatever data it is fed. This data comes from your early
life experiences and the beliefs society has taught to you.
These become your beliefs about yourself, and the world.
By the time you reach adulthood, you have created a filter
system of antiquated beliefs through which each experience
is passed and interpreted by your Mind. Although science
and technology have brought us forward into a grand new
world with greater possibilities than ever, many of our
attitudes and feelings have not evolved equally as far.
The reason you are less equipped
to deal with opportunities presented today is because you
drag along many -unloving beliefs- and misconceptions about
the realities of your world. The truth is, most of us were
born into families of dysfunction at some level or another.
In this context, dysfunction is simply another name for
fear. Because your consciousness is not separate, what you
absorb from your time in-utero through your first six to
nine years, is this fear - a deep sense of invalidation
and emotional pain.
Although we came to Earth
to learn and evolve, learning is definitely
optional hence the dynamics of free
will. Once you accept this concept as one
of the mechanics of human evolution, your desire to evolve
beyond your current challenges will hopefully inspire you
to seek out the most effective ways to assist yourself in
this process. Facing challenges with a perception of them
being part of a learning process is the means to garnering
true wisdom. Challenges can give us the wisdom
needed to broaden our perspective.
Your beliefs and attitudes
determine how you perceive your experiences. These perceptions
determine the way in which you interpret each and every
moment that makes up all the moments called "your life".
In the midst of your next challenge, ask yourself a question
based in Love, such as, “What is the gift
I am to receive from this experience?”
Then listen for the answer. This will lead you to the true
purpose, or blessing to be received. The experience then
becomes one of Love, not fear.
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Begin by feeling the difference
in your energy when you are in your heart versus your head.
Notice that when you speak from the heart your voice changes.
Human emotions run on a scale from low vibration to high
vibration, from fear to love, from damaging to healing.
Anger is low vibrational and destructive to the body. Joy
is high vibrational and healing.
You cannot hold
fear and love simultaneously in your heart toward someone
or something – these two frequencies cannot be held
in the same moment. You cannot be angry at
and loving toward someone at the same time. Why not? It
is because these emotions are at opposite ends of the vibratory
scale of emotions. Fear,
in all facets, is at the bottom half of the scale, along
with negative derivative emotions of anger, jealousy, rage,
envy, and resentment. Love, in all its
aspects, reigns in the top half of the emotional scale.
Humor, joy, kindness, compassion and forgiveness are all
in the higher range.
Begin to live your life at
the top of the emotional scale. Once aware of the power
of emotions to affect the body, you step into the awareness
that you are in charge of your daily reality. When you understand
that your thoughts are potent things and
that pain is an object within you that your body must work
around, it becomes logical that Love heals
all and fear blocks all. Therefore, as soon as you assimilate
these concepts into your awareness, you will become masters
of your emotions. With the ability to control your thoughts
and be loving in every moment, you are able to create all
that you desire and all that you require in your life and
How do you live at
the top of the emotional scale? Awareness is the key.
Then, making a commitment to choose to come from love with
every breath you take and every step you make. What
is the climbing tool? Your belief system,
your faith, your understanding of true-life issues and how
to conquer them through Love.
Mastering your inner health and outer reality occurs when,
at all times, you are aware of your emotions and choose
which emotions to express.
the central point of life brings a sense of joy and fulfillment
to all levels of life, from relationships with self to fulfilling
interpersonal relationships. Only a person who has Love
can give Love to others. How many times
have you heard, “You can’t give what you don’t
have?” How do you put self-love back into your life?
Unconditional love, true unconditional love,
is a moment-to-moment process. It is not a goal that is
one day reached, but rather a moment-to-moment process.
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Following are the explanations of the
5 VERY POWERFUL EFFECTIVE STEPS FOR CREATING PEACE
• The First Step Is Forgiveness
In my research it became apparent
that everyone who has written about healing has dealt with
the importance of Forgiveness
as part of the healing process. In order to move forward,
you have to release the past. Your resentment and non-forgiveness
reduces the amount of love that can come from your heart,
limiting your power to create love in your life. In order
to forgive, you need to ask yourself, “Who
do I most need to forgive?” Whose name or
face pops up? Each person you are able to forgive from the
depths of your being will increase the amount of Love
you have inside. Most importantly, the first person to forgive
• The Second Step Is Maintaining Only Your
Loving Beliefs and Being Aware of Where You Choose to
Place Your Attention •
We create our reality through
our levels of consciousness. Where you choose to place your
attention is what you experience in your life. Accordingly,
there are two levels of attention.
The first level
of attention is your set of beliefs. This
consists of all that has been downloaded into your Mind
by your family and society about who they think you are
and should or should not be - all your judgments and criticisms
about yourself and the world. This is the dialogue you hear
in our head. This is the condition of the human Mind; a
condition that keeps you stuck in your personal pain and
prevents you from realizing your truth.
The second level
of attention, which is influenced by the first
level, is where or on what you choose to focus your attention
at any given moment. An example of how this second level
works is when you buy a car. All of a sudden you see that
same car everywhere. The cars were always there. It was
not until you chose to place your attention on the other
cars that they became part of your reality, your experience.
Because we create our reality through our levels of consciousness,
it is imperative that you thoroughly reevaluate your unloving
beliefs. A willingness to release
unloving beliefs, along with vigilantly maintaining a conscious
awareness as to where you choose to focus
your attention, allows you to create peace,
joy and love in your life. You pay a high
price for how you use or misuse your attention. Therein
lies the value in being constantly aware of it.
• The Third Step Is Being Honest with Yourself
and Others •
In order for you to stop your
current pattern of unloving behavior and undesired outcomes,
you need to be honest about what you allow yourself to think,
say and do. Maintaining your integrity
in thinking and dealing with yourself and others is a commitment
you must make to experience honest, loving relationships.
Although you may think you are always honest, recent studies
have shown that people lie, on average, twenty-five times
One day, I was sitting and
having an internal chat with myself and I asked, “Why
do people lie so much?” At that moment I was shown
a vision of a little boy running up to his mom. She then
pointed to the broken glass on the floor and said, “Did
you do that?” The little boy looked up, and because
he had not yet experienced being punished for telling the
truth, he said, “yes,” and with that his mom
punished him. We learn to lie to avoid punishment, just
like we learn to lie to get the reward of someone’s
love or approval.
• The Fourth Step Is Only Engaging in Loving
Yourself and Others •
Being willing to be impeccable
with your thoughts and words is how you begin to experience
honest, intimate relationships with yourself and with others.
You start by not allowing yourself to engage in unloving,
dishonest Mind chatter. The next step is refusing to engage
in this same unhealthy manner of behavior when speaking
with others. Gossiping is a great example of participation
in being “un-impeccable”. Realize that everybody
experiences this dishonest Mind chatter, and that is why
it is extremely important to not take personally
someone else’s comments.
• The Fifth Step Is Asking Questions Before
Before reacting to someone else’s "stuff":
(1) Stop before reacting.
(3) Then ask yourself, “Is this really about me?”
If you are not sure, then do not
assume it is.
(4) Ask the person as many questions as necessary to clarify
in this "stuff".
Do not forget when you assume
you make an ass out of u
and me. If you examine the origin of all
your arguments with other people you would find that most
have been started by faulty assumptions. Stop assuming and
begin asking questions.
Experiencing peace in your
life is a moment-to-moment process, as are love and joy.
Becoming aware of each moment is living in the present.
Since the past is over and the future is not yet here, the
place to live is in the Now. The Now
is the present, a gift you can
give to yourself. Your true power exists in the Now
because you choose consciously in that moment to experience
a life of peace, joy, prosperity and love.
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