1. How can I stop my negative thoughts from running my life?
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go to Chapters 1,3,4, &5 in Beth’s Book
Many of us are so busy doing so
much, we really have no time to “be”.
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When did we become a world of doers? You
wake up, perform your daily rituals, then go to your job,
or do other daily activities. When the day ends, you rush
home; prepare and eat dinner, watch TV, get ready for bed,
go to sleep… and then begin the same routine again
the next morning. However, while you are doing all these
things, a part of you is constantly assimilating information
from all you hear, see, think, feel and say. All of this
becomes all the things you “hear” in your head.
Most people are unaware that while they are so busy “doing”,
the Mind is running the show - without supervision.
Taking time to “be”
with your thoughts allows you to begin paying attention
to the unhealthy information being ingested, digested, and
regurgitated. This simple task of taking time
to be with your thoughts begins the process of living your
life in a conscious state of awareness.
Your Mind is constantly being bombarded
with negativity about what is wrong in the world. The media
and other people continually share their slanted, negative,
and limited perspectives. Your own personal experiences
and memories contribute to this as well. Ultimately, all
of this negative stimuli evokes feelings of anger, frustration,
and helplessness. As a result of these feelings, along with
the feeling of having no control over your reality, you
begin to deflect your responsibility for your own life and
begin to blame others for your choices, actions, and mistakes.
When asking why things seem so chaotic
in your life and in the world today, if you listen to yourself
carefully, you will realize that you spend a lot of time
finding fault with others. Our tendency as humans
is to blame others for the negative things that happen to
us. This limited and destructive perspective
makes us feel powerless. If someone or something else is
responsible for the negative things happening to you, you
feel there is nothing you can do. No wonder you feel drained,
depressed, angry, frustrated, and physically ill.
We search outside of ourselves for
answers, rather than within. We look to other people and
things to resolve our feelings of powerlessness. This clearly
cannot work. In addition to blaming others, we tend to practice
avoidance. We believe that in order to be least affected
by negative things, all we need to do is "mind our
own business" and avoid people and situations that
However, you soon realize that that
doesn’t work either, still leaving you stressed, drained,
frustrated, and powerless. Eventually, all this stress and
frustration takes its toll on your body, showing up as high
blood pressure, diabetes, cancer, and other ailments. The
physical manifestations of negative stress are signals that
force you to take notice, to direct your attention toward
yourself, and to begin an internal adjustment of your attitudes
and behaviors. Adjustments in behavior are the result of
making changes in your beliefs.
Changing your life is
an inside job. Knowing this is the first step.
It takes hearing and reading wise, loving information over
and over in order to replace the ingrained old thoughts,
words, and actions.
My passion is to help you remember
a deep-seated truth that is within each of us, the truth
of our magnificence. When your mental, emotional, and physical
bodies align with Spirit’s unlimited Love,
there is no lack, no self-imposed limitation. Everything
is possible. When everything is in alignment with Love,
the true desires of your heart are revealed, and you live
your life with passion.
It may sound simple but it is not
easy, because it requires telling the truth to yourself.
And the truth is…what is “out there”
reflects what is “in here.” It
all starts with personal responsibility. What is “out
there” in the world is quickly created
as a mirror for what is “in here”
in your Mind and heart. What you feel, think and run away
from in fear will quickly reappear in front of you as something
else, showing you what is going on within. It is the Universe’s
way of always respecting our power of free will. It will
always represent to us who we think we are, so that we can
see it and change it if it is not to our liking.
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You attract who you
are, not what you want. When you see others
and react to others with judgment, criticism, anger, jealousy,
resentment, frustration and other forms of fear, you can
always locate those same emotions lingering within the pathways
of your Mind toward yourself.
One of the first and most important
steps in creating the life you want, instead of the life
you do not want, is taking complete responsibility
for the life you are living now. Responsibility
is acknowledging the truth about your life. Take ownership
of your life’s circumstances without blame. Instead
of feeling judged, the attitude of taking responsibility,
places you on a direct path of self-discovery.
is becoming aware of your truths and the truths about how
you are living your life right now. Refrain from judgment
in your observations of your current circumstances and choices
that you have made thus far. Asking if what you have done
is right or wrong or bad or good will not bring you to self-discovery,
it will only take you further from the truth and the answers
you are seeking. If your goal is to create the life you
desire and deserve, you need only look as far as your inner
resolve. You have been accustomed to looking for answers
outside of yourself when it is from within
that the solution is reached.
All the great masters who have walked
the Earth have spoken of “going within”
and being the Love that we truly are. To
do this requires a change in attitude, a shift in perception
that moves you to look NOT at the crisis you see outside
but to the peace you can create within. Doing this requires
no great leap of imagination or test of faith. It begins
with a simple thing called willingness.
The truth is, “as within, so without”.
Within all of us is the power to change the most important
thing in the world: ourselves. Asking yourself
specific questions helps to determine what in your life
either serves or does not serve you in being your true,
authentic, loving, divine self. Then be willing to listen
and to choose to act upon the loving answers that come from
within. The truth is…”If
you always go within, you will never go without!”
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Many of us have been programmed
to believe that we are not enough. You have been
programmed to exist in a sense of lack, creating a survival
mentality. You have been programmed not to know Love
and certainly not to know or Love yourself.
By the time you were nine years of age, your basic beliefs
and outlooks were set in concrete. You consciously and unconsciously
agreed to those beliefs. As you grew, your body, intellect,
and many of your ideas may have changed, but the bottom
line is that you are ruled emotionally by the immature beliefs
taken on by the little boy or girl who lives within the
breast of each of us. The little boy or little girl does
not know the truth, but has agreed to it anyway.
A successful technique to recognizing
“we are not our Minds” is to observe our most
common thoughts and then give your Mind a name. Some examples
are: The Committee, The Critic, The Analyst, The Tormentor,
The Whiner, or whatever best describes the dialogue in your
head. Because thinking is only a small aspect of consciousness,
this technique assists you in beginning to make the distinction
between your Mind and your higher consciousness. Clearly,
there is an Intelligence at work within you that is far
grander then the Mind.
this point you understand how your Mind works and that your
thoughts and words have a more powerful effect on your life
than many of your actions. What now? You still have to live
with your Mind. So how do you begin to take the Mind out
of the drivers seat and have it become a quiet passenger?
How do you begin to experience peace in your life today?
are 5 very powerfully effective steps for stopping negative
thoughts from running your life and beginning to create
peace of mind. They are explained in detail if you click
on the expanded answer for this question. (click
- (1) The First Step Is Forgiveness for
Yourself and Others
- (2) The Second Step Is Maintaining Only Your
Loving Beliefs and Being Aware of Where You Choose to
Place Your Attention
- (3) The Third Step Is Being Honest with Yourself
- (4) The Fourth Step Is Only Engaging in Loving
Dialogue with Yourself and Others
- (5) The Fifth Step Is Asking Questions Before
steps are explained in detail if you click on the expanded
answer for this question or (click
here…) to go to teh Expnaded version of the 5
Be diligent about these steps if you truly want to experience
peace instead of all the drama and chaos you are currently
experiencing from all your negative thoughts running your
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